Case of the Ex---Part 2

So I decided not to call up the Ex about contacting my family because I didn't want the unnecessary drama that came along with that.

My mom calls me Thursday and says "Hey, you should call Ex's mom because the grandma died this week and it would be nice of you to just call her and express your condolences." I'm like "Uhhh...ok." I mean I did spend 2 years with this guy and really became close to his family. So I think 'Ok no harm in just calling her up real quick...I won't have to talk to him anyways.' Then I remember that I no longer have her number and that I would need to call Ex up to get it. I'm dreading this and so it takes me a day before I do it. I really didn't want to speak to him. Here goes the conversation:

Me (in a monotoned voice): Hey Ex! It's Tasha.

Ex (sounding WAY too excited): Heyyyy Tasha! How are you?

Me: I'm fine. Hey, I heard about Mother (that's what we called her)...sorry to hear about your loss.

Ex: Thanks!

(I interrupt him before he can say anything else)

Me: Can I have your mom's number so I can give her a call? I don't have her number anymore.

Ex (probably irritated that I wouldn't let him say anything else): Uhhh sure.. it's ____.

Me: Thanks! Take care!

(Click!) I did NOT want to have a conversation with him obviously.

I called his mom and probably talked to her for like 15-20 minutes. We just caught up on things and then she proceeds to throw in Ex's name in there. She tells me how he's a changed person and he still talks about me all the time. She then proceeds to ask if I have a boyfriend now. Of course, I tell her yes and I could just hear the disappoint in her voice. Honestly, it's good to hear that he has changed his life for the better but he put me through so much crap and nothing that's said now can change the way I will forever feel about that relationship. I don't forget things. I have a boyfriend now who treats me the way I have always (and should) dreamed of being treated. Why take a step backwards?

Later that afternoon, Ex texts me and says it was good to hear from me and he hopes I am doing well. I didn't want to be bitchy and not respond, so I send a text back saying it was good to hear he was doing well and to take care. OK when someone says "take care" that usually means the conversation is OVER....well, not to the Ex. He sends a text again a few hours later and asks if I can accept pictures on my phone. I reply with a simple "Yes." I go to work that night at Champps and when I get off at 12 a.m. I have a pic of my phone of his 2 dogs that I knew when they were puppies. I send a text back that says "Wow, they are big now! have a good night!"

AGAIN, he should have known that was the end of the texting. Nope! At this point, I am regretting ever replying to the first text! He sends another text asking what I am doing. I reply that I just got home from work. He probably sends 2 more texts after that one saying little inside jokes we used to have when we were together. I finally just start ignoring him. This is going way too far and he is trying to pull me back in.

The next day, which is Saturday, I go to Fayetteville to see my mom and catch up with a friend. He sends me a new text around lunchtime asking if I had 2 jobs. I replied "Yes" and he replies back and asks what I am doing. Throughout the day, he keeps sending texts with more inside jokes from the time we were together. I just ignore. Why is he doing this??? I am so irritated at this point and want to kick myself for ever responding to any of the texts. He is trying his hardest to pull me back in by bringing up the good memories we had together.

Boyfriend is gone to South Carolina this whole time to work for a golf tournament in Hilton Head. I didn't tell him about any of the messages Ex sent me because I didn't get enough time to speak with him while he's been gone. Boyfriend comes back today, so I will be able to get his undivided attention.

I want to tell him about it all because I don't ever keep anything from Boyfriend. But I also kind of feel like I should leave it alone because there is nothing there, especially on my end. But then I feel like if I don't tell Boyfriend about it, I am hiding it from him or something. Uggghh what's a girl to do?